I used to wonder why I didn’t look like Margot Robbie, or have a body like Jessica Alba. I wanted to understand why tan skin looked stunning on her, but felt too dark on me. I wanted to know how they kept their imperfections hidden, while mine were visible for everyone to see. It took me far too long to understand that my beauty didn’t have to be the same as theirs; we were beautiful in our own ways.
Self-love is not necessarily defined by our perfections, but more about acknowledging our imperfections. It’s important to realize that comparison and negative self-talk get us nowhere. We can’t focus solely on flaws when there is so much else to appreciate.
You may feel unlovable, but love starts within YOU. If you can’t learn to love yourself, how can you expect others to? Your differences make you unique and special, something that others may not fully understand — but it’s important for you to. Learning to be your own biggest supporter is much more powerful than being your harshest critic. That constant voice telling you what you’re doing wrong—why she’s prettier, smarter, better—who cares? You are you, and that is more than enough.
It’s also important to put your mental health into context as not everyone had to sacrifice as much or navigate the same challenges. Many may not understand the struggles we face, but the truth is, their perspective doesn’t matter. What matters most is understanding that self-compassion is the biggest step to a positive mindset. It’s time to shift the mindset of “Why them?” to “How can I love and appreciate myself more, just as I am?”
I hope this message resonates with you. If you have any advice or thoughts to share, I’d love to hear them. Contact me through TikTok, email, or simply comment on some posts!
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